How can I help my adult child feel supported during the Covid-19 stay-at-home advisory?
Question: Do you have any suggestions I can offer my adult child that may help her feel supported while Covid-19 home advisory is issued? She has been in recovery for a little over a year now and I worry she may start disconnecting.
Thank you; this is a great question during this unfamiliar time.
One of the positive results of the Covid-19 outbreak is that many people in our country have been allowed to slow down or even pause, learn to be more mindful, and live one day at a time. This is exactly what we have learned in our recovery. Most of us have been in a mental place where we have no control of anything but our state of mind. In the last month, I have watched the recovery community adapt almost more quickly and easily to the stay-at-home orders than average people have. Our struggle with addiction and our recovery have left us resilient, accustomed to living slightly apart from society, living life “on pause,” and maintaining a vigilant and mindful lifestyle in order to succeed.
Regarding your child, find what will help her adjust in a healthy manner while encouraging her to stay mindful of old habits and behaviors. For example, offer your daughter information on online recovery meetings and encourage her to connect daily with her fellowship network and her recovery supports. Have her commit to making a certain number of calls or video chats per day or week. Although we may not be able to stay connected physically, technology is our solution.
This is a great time to learn, for all family members. Tensions are high, but I have found that laughter and acceptance help. If you notice your loved one is struggling, suggest taking a walk or going for a ride. Listening to music or a recovery podcast can also be therapeutic. The daily news can become a cesspool of anxiety and fear, so I highly suggest unplugging and removing the outside noise for a few hours a day. This a great time for us to learn about each other and about ourselves. However, if your loved one is living at home with you, and you notice unhealthy behavioral changes, take the time to address them. If your concerns about your own or your loved one’s mental health become worse, consider connecting with a telehealth therapist. Depression and isolation can become extremely detrimental for those struggling in recovery.
Below I have listed some great web resources and links to online meetings. All are typically updated daily. I encourage everyone to explore creative and healthy ways to cope during this unfamiliar time.
Thank you again, Mom!
A Daughter’s Perspective
Disclaimer: The above advice is not meant to be construed as medical or legal advice. If you need professional medical, psychological, or legal advice, please contact a doctor, lawyer, or medical center.
Keriann Caccavaro is a recovery coach, drug court advocate, and woman in long term recovery helping to support people struggling with addiction and their families. You can learn more about her on LinkedIn or Facebook.
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