Changing the focus so that boundaries become a mindful process of letting go of control that isn’t ours.Continue reading
In the tangled web of the family, their lives are affected by the illness of substance use disorder too. And not for the better.Continue reading
Understanding this is one of the most important things moms can do.Continue reading
Helping your teen is hard, and even harder during these unprecedented times.Continue reading
Detachment is neither unloving nor unkind. It’s simply accepting the fact that we can’t live our loved ones’ lives for them.Continue reading
The novel coronavirus has halted American life, spreading anxiety, panic and even death. We who love those with substance use disorder live this way almost all the time.Continue reading
Buprenorphine and methadone work. They save lives and increase recovery rates. Period.Continue reading
Everything a parent learns, they learn the hard way. There’s help out there, but you don’t know what you don’t know.Continue reading
When there’s an addict in your family, they quickly become the ringmaster. They don’t ask for that role; we promote them to it.Continue reading
Let us not go through life as do-gooders with sourpuss hearts. Let us live joyfully with grateful hearts.Continue reading
I’ve given up trying to ferret out why one son is an addict and the other isn’t. I now spend my time learning about how best to support my son’s recovery.
Growing up in a family where holidays, family gatherings, and ordinary Tuesday nights often ended in a drunken brawl, I swore I would not catch the family disease.
It was obvious to me, his mother, that I had been looking at life through a different set of lenses.
Addiction is a misunderstood tragedy, too often hushed up. Too often hidden away due to shame, guilt, or fear of blame. Too often, addiction is a battle faced while all alone and afraid…
Our daughter’s addiction lasted about ten years, though we didn’t understand the nature of the beast until almost the end. We rationalized, we were confused, and we were tolerant in a helpless way.
Today, my son is healthy and a contributing member of society, and every day I am grateful. Today, I am able to see addiction through my eyes and his.
“I became obsessed with him: where he was, how he was, and what he was doing. I was in so much pain that I tried to learn everything I could about addiction.”
Adverse childhood experiences—or ACEs, also referred to as childhood trauma—are among the key risk factors for developing addiction. The other risk factors are early use (before age twenty-one), mental illness, social environment, and genetics.