For all parents wondering what they did wrong, guilt is a crippling emotion.
VOICES – All Those Soul-Crushing Feelings
Sometimes I don’t trust myself. My resolve. Because when I soften and open my heart, open the door and let you in, it’s more than I can bear.
I had to learn that it was all about expectations and I had to let them go.
There is no shortcutting this journey of healing. It takes deliberate choice and effort to cultivate inner peace and skills to put our love into helpful action and effective communication.
Yes, the pain and emptiness is still here. I have accepted that it will always be with me. THIS is my new life. Accepting this was a major step in healing.
I may or may not have all my loved ones around this year. It’s another lesson in letting go—the empty seat is no reflection on me.
This kind of guilt is not pretty or, most of the time, warranted, but it is real. Moms who love their children deeply need strong family or friends to get through the terrible times.
How to tame the fear when the beast is our own child’s addiction.
“It’s your last chance,” the therapist had warned us. “She’s sixteen. Soon you won’t be able to make decisions about her health.”
Who carries shame in the world of addiction? Is it the sick one or families, or both? What does shame feel like? And how can you find the gift of NO SHAME?
We do the best we can when raising our children, but when things go wrong, everything we’ve ever done becomes fodder for the fire of maternal guilt.
Dear Mom, addiction has nothing to do with the love between a mother and child.
My first response was denial. One would think I knew better considering the family I came from, but as Melody Beattie says, “Denial is the shock absorber for the soul.”
As the mom of an addicted child, is it possible to find peace of mind and freedom from suffering? Listen in as Victoria Stith tells you how.
Listen in as Victoria Stith shares techniques for recognizing and managing some very difficult emotions.
We are called to love our children unconditionally, but the question became what does love look like in this situation, in dealing with someone in the throes of addiction?
An interview with Sandy Swenson by the creators of ‘ASK: Can Love Survive Addiction and Co-Dependency?’ documentary.